Raising children 8 10 years old. Psychological features of the development of nine-year-old children

The editors of Montessori.Children were asked:

Is it possible to re-educate an eight-year-old child or is it too late? He is spoiled, he is reluctant to fulfill his parents’ requests, he always needs to be forced to do the basics: don’t forget to brush his teeth, take a bath, learn his homework, etc. The boy is 8 years old. We are raising our second child, a daughter, according to Montessori standards - at 2 years old she is already independent. Thank you in advance!

Olga Seletskaya, Montessori teacher at the Otrada International Medical Center (AMI 6–12), answers the question of how to teach a child to be independent.

“Is it possible to re-educate an eight-year-old child or is it too late?”

Education is a continuous process that lasts a lifetime. Even adults change over the course of their lives. We are influenced by the people around us, circumstances, and life challenges. Therefore, it is never too late to have a positive influence on a child.

How to raise an 8 year old child

High self-esteem is the main condition for the development of a sense of responsibility and independence in a child.
How to increase self-esteem in an eight-year-old child? Children feel important if adults take the time to talk to them. Frequent communication and discussion of various topics helps in developing self-confidence.

Ask about his friends and activities he likes. Share the best and worst episodes of your life. Ask him what he liked most about today? What were the difficult moments? Let your child feel that it is possible and necessary to share negative feelings and moments in life. This gives an understanding that there are positive and negative situations in life. Open, kind, and honest communication with your child creates strong, lasting bonds between parents and children.

How to raise responsibility in a child

Responsibility is the ability to do right choice and be aware of the consequences of your actions. A responsible person cares about the well-being of others and understands that everyone plays a significant role in the development of the world around them.

Responsible behavior for an eight-year-old child is expressed in the following:
- independently prepare for school;
- keep your things in order;
- help adults around the house;
- be an assistant in school affairs;
- maintain order in your home and yard;
- take care of plants and animals;
- help younger children and older people;
- report emergency or dangerous situations on the street to the appropriate authorities.

To instill responsibility in an 8-year-old child, responsibilities must be appropriate to his age. Self-care habits develop gradually and with parental guidance. If a child is disorganized, reproaches and categorical instructions will not lead to success.

The reason for a child’s failure to fulfill his responsibilities may be too generalized parental demands: “put away your things,” “get ready for school tomorrow.” Break these requirements down into more specific ones: “pack your backpack - what will you need tomorrow?”, “prepare the clothes that you will wear to school tomorrow: get clean socks and a shirt and hang them on the chair.”

The daily routine and responsibilities that a child is given in the family give him clarity of what to expect at one time or another. In the morning he takes a shower, brushes his teeth, gets dressed and has breakfast. In the evening, he packs his school backpack for tomorrow, prepares his uniform for training or other after-school activities, takes a shower, brushes his teeth, and reads before bed.

The family should set aside a certain time for watching television or using the computer. The total time spent watching TV or computer should not exceed two hours a day.

Responsibility and independence mean that the child knows the boundaries of what is permitted. If a child breaks the rules, explain simply and briefly what the child did wrong and what the consequences may be if these rules are not followed.

Tell us about what happens in his body if he does not brush his teeth, show pictures of teeth affected by caries. Tell us how pathogenic bacteria enter the body from an uncleaned mouth, spread through the blood, and affect the functioning of the heart, liver, and kidneys. Awareness about oral and body hygiene motivates the student to maintain hygiene.

Talk to your child about the hormone melatonin, which is released during sleep. Why is it important to go to bed on time, since the activity of the hormone melatonin begins at 9 pm. Why is it important not to sit too long, not to miss this moment, so that you can have quality sleep? It is necessary to cultivate a healthy lifestyle, explain to children the importance of sleep hygiene, work hygiene and their own body.

Assign your son certain responsibilities around the house:

Set the table for a family dinner;

Clean your desk and keep your supplies in order;

Feed pets;

Throw dirty clothes into the laundry basket.

Praise the child. Praise efforts, not results. You will see his self-esteem grow as these responsibilities become a habit for him.

Student responsibility in studies

The most common complaints from parents are complaints that the child cannot bring himself to sit down to do his homework. To help your 8-year-old child with his school responsibilities, set rules.

Start by organizing the student's study space. It should be away from the TV and other distracting devices. When should a child start doing homework, turn off the TV. Eight years is not yet the age when a schoolchild can be expected to do independent, concentrated homework. The role of parents is great in eliminating distracting objects. Therefore, it is acceptable for a child to do homework at the kitchen table, in the presence of an adult who prepares the food.

Set a rule regarding smartphones: when a student is studying, phone signals are switched to silent mode. Modeling such behavior is extremely important for the child - he feels the support of others and their respect for educational activities.

Together with the student, prepare his desk for work: there should be no unnecessary objects on it, the table should be well lit, and all the necessary items should be at hand so that the child does not need to be distracted and get up from the table.

Create a homework schedule with your son. Set fifteen-minute breaks every 30 minutes. Make sure the room is well ventilated. Hang a large calendar on the wall of your son's room, as well as a sheet with a list of his household chores. Children get satisfaction when they can check a box or put a sticker next to a completed task.

While the child is doing his homework, it is better to sit next to him and mind his own business: the family budget, pay bills online, etc. This way the child will feel that he is not alone with his responsibilities. In addition, you model a focused and attentive attitude towards the tasks at hand.

What to do if a child does not obey his parents

“He is spoiled, reluctant to fulfill his parents’ requests, he always needs to be forced to do the basics: don’t forget to brush his teeth, take a bath, learn his homework, etc.”

Why doesn't an 8-year-old child obey? Here we are dealing with “ignoring” behavior - the child does not “hear” what adults are telling him the first time.

First you need to understand the reasons for this behavior. Most likely this happens because adults repeat demands several times and the child is simply accustomed to not responding to words.

Set a rule - you only need to ask to do something once.

In your case, when you see that the child is not responding, use the “engaged guidance” technique. Don't let your child ignore your request and continue doing his own thing. Approach him and kindly tell him that you understand his feelings: he wants to play a little more and is sorry to part with his toys. By expressing understanding of the child’s feelings, you thereby put yourself on his side, tune in to his wave.

Then kindly explain to the boy why he needs to stop what he’s doing and do what is required (it’s time to go to bed or it’s time to sit down for homework). In a friendly tone, discuss what the consequences of failure to comply with the requirement may be (unlearned lessons, sleep-deprived child). Then offer to participate in fulfilling the requirement: “Let’s go together and see what needs to be tidied up on the table so we can start working on homework” or “Let’s go choose what book you would like to read before bed.”

“Ignoring” behavior is common and correcting it requires wisdom and great patience from an adult. It is important to make the boy feel that you are not confrontational with him, but support him in the need to cope with his responsibilities.

Remember that the development of independence and responsibility of a child at eight years old is not an isolated process, but only part of an integrated approach to the education of personality, a system of values ​​and habits.

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Communication will help your child increase self-esteem and self-confidence. Communication is the basis of your relationship with your child.

It is important for a child of any age that his parents understand how he feels at the moment. Your task is to let the children understand that he can talk to you about everything that is happening in their lives. The only way to achieve this is to listen carefully to everything that the child tells you, without interfering with your own judgments and without accusing him in vain of all mortal sins.

Establishing productive communication will give you a head start on teenage years, when finding a common language will be even more difficult, and the questions will be much more tricky and confusing. If at the age of 8-9 years you do not start discussing with your child issues of morality, gender relations, the dangers of drugs, etc., teenage years will most likely pass under the auspices of endless confrontation. In addition, the methods of education that worked on a child at a younger age no longer work on an eight-year-old child, so for better mutual understanding with the child, it is simply necessary to establish communication.

Basic principles of fruitful communication

The beginning of a conversation should imply continuation. For example, the question should be: “Tell me how your hike was,” and not: “Did you enjoy the hike?”
. Communication should be two-way. You need to not just tell or advise a child something, but listen to his point of view and try to understand how he feels.
. Thoughtful listening is the most effective way to communicate with a child of this age. The child's views and concerns should be understood, accepted and respected. Try to understand the emotional component, which often cannot be expressed in words; Understand how the child is feeling and respond to his feelings. For example, say, “That must have made you really angry.” You can also ask again to clarify the details: “Are you saying that your teacher will leave school at the end of the semester?”

Are you listening?
Talking is only half of communication. Listening is an equally important skill.

Stop what you are doing and give your full attention to your child.

Look him in the eyes.

Do not interrupt your child ahead of time.

When listening to your child, show that you are really listening to him - nod, smile, say “Mmm...”, etc.

Let your child understand that you are always ready to listen and sympathize, no matter what the problem is: quarreled with a friend, failed to put together a football team, got bad grades on an exam. Explain that a mistake is not just a failure, but a way to learn how to do things properly.

Often, parents, instead of full communication with 8-9 year old children, only give instructions and explain what the child is doing wrong. They use phrases such as: “I told you you couldn’t do this” or “You should have listened to me.” If parents try to shame their children or blame them for something at every opportunity, they get the feeling that they will never learn to act as they should.

If a child of 8-9 years old sees that all his attempts to talk with his parents end in the same parental lecture, he will soon decide that it is not worth trying.

Important tips for improving communication

If you really don't have time to listen to your child, explain to him why. For example: “I’m busy right now, but in half an hour we can talk about this properly.”

Children at this age have an increased need for “personal space,” and you should respect this. Children want more independence and may not want to tell you everything.

Gradually loosen control, and pay attention to the child’s stories that his peers have rights that they do not have - they go to bed later, watch TV longer, get more money for pocket expenses. Maybe it's time to reconsider family rules.

If you need your child to listen to you, make sure that this does not infringe on his right to his own point of view - explain that until he grows up, some decisions must be made for him by his parents.

At this age, when children begin to understand more about the world around them, we need to explain to them how important it is to respect the views of other people. Explain that you cannot judge anything without having complete information. Teach your child to treat other people and their beliefs without prejudice.

Tell your child about your feelings. If you tell how tired you are at work or how excited you are for the upcoming weekend, your child will be more willing to talk about his experiences. However, under no circumstances should you burden your child with adult problems, be it personal relationships or financial difficulties. You should not demand emotional support from your child.

Don't underestimate the role nonverbal communication. Try to notice when your child looks sad and upset. Say, “You look upset—would you like to tell me what’s wrong?”

Encourage your child to talk about their activities in a positive way. For example: “I'm trying to understand math,” rather than “I don't understand anything about math.”

Avoid sarcastic and derogatory statements: “You are a fool,” “How dare you do that?” Constant humiliation leads to insecurity. It’s better to say: “Yes, I understand what you mean,” or “Yes, you’re right, but...”.

Try to develop in your child an “I can” attitude towards life. At this age, a child’s confidence in his own abilities may be shaken; he perceives his own shortcomings more clearly and reacts more sharply to a lack of success in school subjects or sports.

The period of early school age is one of the most difficult in the process of raising and developing children. The psychology of 7-8 year old children is such that they have to adapt to new conditions - school life, get used to certain responsibilities, rhythm, routine associated with the educational process.

With the beginning of the school period of the baby’s life, he emotional development depends significantly on the experience that the child receives outside the home. The baby’s fears reflect his perception of the outside world, the horizons of which are now significantly expanding. The incomprehensible and imaginary fears of past years are replaced by new, more conscious ones: visits to the doctor, natural phenomena, relationships with classmates. In this case, fear tends to take the form of anxiety or worry.

During this period, children strive to occupy certain positions in the system of class relations. The child’s emotional state is increasingly influenced by his relationships with classmates, and not just by success in the educational process and relationships with teachers. At the time of entering school, children’s relationships are guided mainly by the norms of “adult” morality, i.e. success in studies, fulfilling the requirements of adults.

Children aged 7-8 years tend to be spontaneous and trusting. Parents must understand and accept these features and be careful about manifestations of sincerity and straightforwardness in the child’s conversations and actions. At the same time, the process of learning at school and the associated enhanced intellectual development creates the basis for a more perfect formation of aesthetic and moral feelings in children, for subtle experiences that arise when communicating with nature, works of art, literature, painting, music, and most importantly - with people . These features of the psychology of children 7-8 years old require a special attitude from adults - teachers and parents.

During this period, the child may show signs of a crisis period - mannerisms, disobedience, antics. The baby begins to show these qualities in almost everything, from choosing clothes to doing housework. Many parents are familiar with the situation when they spend hours persuading their child to do something, for example, clean the room, but he pointedly ignores the request and argues. This is one of the most striking manifestations of the so-called crisis of 7 years.

The process of raising 7-year-old children who are going through a period of crisis should be based on the principles of supporting the child, demonstrating understanding, but at the same time, the rigidity and steadfastness of an adult’s decisions.
Interaction with a child experiencing a 7-year-old crisis should not be overwhelming. After all, it is protest against the will of parents that is the basis of children's disobedience. Therefore, an overly authoritarian parenting style can only aggravate the situation. The child will withdraw and begin to move away from the adult.

Recommendations for parents of children 7-8 years old
The main requirement of a child at this age is a little more freedom, independence in behavior and decision-making. Give your child what he wants, show support for his aspirations to develop his autonomy and independence.

Apply a system of self-control both in the educational process and in matters of an economic and household nature. Use diaries as tools for self-control - reading, behavior, sports training, housework. The baby must learn to plan and control his actions.

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By age 8 mental development The child's appearance already allows us to conclude: he is growing up quickly. Studying at school becomes one of the main tasks, the main activity.

Children may not like or love school at this age, but learning activities are a particularly important part of their lives. Now you will have to change your approach to education, because past methods no longer work on an older person.

Be sure to pay attention to what your student can already do on his own. You also need to scold and encourage him correctly. This is the time when your requests begin to be discussed. The child wants to know why you ask him to do something, why now, and not tomorrow or in the evening. This is another crisis period in the formation of personality. You just have to wait it out. Set communication boundaries: they are necessary now.

Psychology and development

At the age of 8, what psychologists call a “why” rebellion occurs. Now psychological development already allows a person to think about the reason for his own and others’ actions. Children in this aged people really want to defend their interests and fight for independence. Their parents were also like this at one time, so this is not some kind of peculiarity of your son or daughter specifically. It is impossible to follow the lead, but it is also wrong to leave the conflict without resolution.

There is nothing wrong with a child's new independence. This is an inevitable stage of development that you will go through together. It’s best if you learn to set boundaries, to show: “this is possible, but this is no longer possible.” Now the best parenting tactics are your correct calculation of the situation.. Somewhere you can give in and you won’t lose anything, but somewhere you need to follow common sense. This will be a “battle” where sometimes parents can lose. This will only benefit the children.

What should a child be able to do?

If at the age of 7 the mother folded the briefcase before school, then at the age of 8 the child should already take care of all school affairs himself. Parents need to ensure that he is as independent as possible. At this age it is imperative that:

It is no longer possible to put it off. Children very quickly get used to a certain lifestyle and attitude. If he only prepares his homework and his mother does the rest, Dad, grandmothers, then the child will very quickly learn to live exactly like this. Without responsibility at this age, the psyche develops worse, since there is no incentive for logical and situational thinking.

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It is useful at this age to additionally engage in languages, sports, and music. The main rule here is that the child should like the classes and not overload him. The workload at school is not so great, but children need time to relax and play. If after school there is homework every day, and also attending sections, then there will be no time left for rest. This is the wrong approach. You can attend clubs and sections 2-3 times a week for now.

It can be hard to sleep

The rule “if you get tired more, you will fall asleep faster” does not apply to children. Their nervous system different from an adult. Mom and dad work all day, get tired, and quickly fall asleep in the evening, but your schoolchild does not live under such a program. Yes,
physical activity helps him relieve stress. An evening walk in the fresh air is suitable for this. A child may have a lot of worries, questions - they torment him and don't let him sleep.

Install trusting relationship: communicate, talk, decide together problematic situations. If you suggest a solution, it will be much easier for your baby to fall asleep in the evening. If he doesn’t have the opportunity to talk to you, then his thoughts will continue to torment him. But many school problems and worries can be resolved by a simple conversation with parents.

Games

The age of 8 years is the time when the psyche and intellect are actively developing. But that doesn't mean that
Schoolchildren do not need games and toys. The main thing now is to give them the opportunity to play calmly, without insisting that it is "for little ones". During the game, children 7-8 years old model the usual life situations, find solutions. This is an excellent motivation for the development of the psyche, because you need to solve situational problems, find a way out yourself different situations. During play, many of the child's talents are revealed.

Schooling

Now this is the main activity of a primary school student. Education and development are becoming
the main topics of conversation, worries and desires. Nowadays, many schoolchildren are very concerned about their grades and teacher praise. This situation will not always last long. Many excellent students junior school become indifferent to studies in the future. Maintaining interest is the task of not only the teacher, but also the parents.

Nowadays there is a lot of talk about how the marking system is not the best. The child spends more energy not on studying, but on getting an “A” or not getting a “D”. The very purpose of education turns out to be displaced. Many children answer the question “why are you studying?” So:

To
parents didn't scold me.

Because everyone is learning.

To get straight A's.

Unfortunately, if the teacher did not explain to them the meaning of the process, then they think so. Such studies do not bring much results, and knowledge is forgotten within a few weeks or after the holidays. The main task of parents and teachers is to interest them.

Don't demand to "be an adult"

Children are gradually growing up and developing. There is no need to demand that it happen faster. At your neighbor's An 8-year-old child already knows 2 languages, reads books every day and wins Olympiads? You shouldn’t set him as an unattainable example for your child who loves cartoons, doesn’t always cope with math and dreams of superheroes. All children develop individually. In addition, they can be successful in completely different areas. For example, although your child does not like mathematics, your child is good at drawing, talented with technology, or a good athlete.

Demanding that you throw away toys, games, and children's activities and focus only on studying is the wrong approach.

At the age of 8, children themselves understand that they are growing up. Their interests gradually change. For example, a child may suddenly become interested in modern music or choose a certain area of ​​knowledge and want to study only that. Parents often imagine an ideal development plan in their heads. However, ideal does not exist simply because your child is alive, with his own interests, desires, and capabilities. Give him time to figure himself out.

Upbringing

Studying is good, but education also needs to be done. Your schoolchild still has a program in his head: if he wants something, then we cry, because with hysterics you can get everything. It's time to wean him off this. This behavior is manipulative, and parents will greatly regret it if they do not stop it immediately.

Features of behavior

At the same age, at 8 years old, a not very pleasant time for the child’s personal self-affirmation begins. Previously, parents asked to do something, and the son or daughter fulfilled the request. Now the question may arise: “why?” So, maybe: “why make the bed, I’ll come back from school and still sleep”, “why wash the dishes now, you can wash them tomorrow”, “why should I constantly walk the dog, you can too”. We need to be understanding here. Your explanations will not bring much results; a “smart” child will find another 1000 arguments.

It is necessary to set boundaries for the child behavior. For example, in public, at a party, in a store, arguing and starting “why...” is unacceptable. You just need to do as mom or dad asks. He himself subconsciously seeks these frameworks and needs them. Punish the student the same way he was punished before ( shout, corner, slap on the butt) is now meaningless. It’s better to calmly explain that failure to comply with the parents’ request will result in such and such (you will take away the phone, you will not be able to turn on the TV, or go for a walk).

In order to defend his interests, the baby may begin to carry out your instructions very slowly or poorly. Don't just leave it like that. Monitor the implementation, force it to be redone if it’s done poorly. This is also a difficult experience for a child. After all, he already understands a lot himself, even your actions, but he still completely depends on you. At the age of 8, the normal process of mental maturation occurs. We'll have to be patient a little.

How to punish and reward

Here you need to understand: from the kids your son or daughter
were before, they are already turning into fully grown people. Your screams and insults will not stop them from wanting or not wanting to do something. On the contrary, it is offensive for a growing person. They may already understand that there is nothing specific behind your insult. It is better to talk to an 8-year-old child in a substantive manner. Explain to him what you want, what will happen if he refuses to fulfill the request or assignment.

Sometimes it's worth making a compromise. If your student eats normally, but doesn’t eat cucumbers, is it really such a problem? You probably have a set of foods that you don’t like, and you don’t eat them. Instead of fighting over cucumbers, put other vegetables in your salad for him. Or even suggest that he prepare his own salad, since the whole family eats and loves cucumbers.

Mental development
I have made a lot of progress in my first 2-3 years at school. Now it is no longer possible to punish a child in the same way as 3-4 years ago. This may create complexes for him. It’s best to leave punishments for home, but don’t do anything like that on the street, in front of friends or teachers. This is no longer a kid who doesn’t remember his bad deed.

If you scold and punish, then you need to encourage. From the age of 8, you can already give your child some personal money. A little cash incentive won't hurt him. But there is no need to “play” with this by giving money and then taking it away for bad behavior or study. This will only lead to the child’s mistrust and increased secrecy.

Conversation with a child

Try to solve all problems by talking. Proper development of a child is impossible without the support of parents. He should not see you as an enemy from whom he needs to hide his thoughts, activities and things, but as his beloved parent and friend. To do this, be patient. It's not easy watching your baby grow up. Yes, he is becoming independent and no longer really needs any advice. , however, your confidential conversations are useful for both of you.

This way you can find out what your child really is like.. He has changed a lot over the last 2-3 years that he has been studying at school. If you become not only a strict parent to him, but also a friend, this will solve a lot of problems. In a difficult situation, he will always turn to you, and will not start looking for some dubious way out of the situation.

The psychology of an 8-year-old child is undergoing changes. An eight-year-old child feels like an established personality who has his own worldview and opinion. Psychological characteristics children 8 years old are determined by gender and individual personal qualities.

Parents must look for the right approach to the growing individual. At 8 years old, raising a child presents some difficulties for parents. The son or daughter protests and reacts inadequately to comments and advice from their parents. Mother and father must choose the right words and think through their actions so as not to hurt the feelings of a vulnerable teenager.

Having reached the age of 8, children consider themselves independent, they have established views and their own opinions. The young citizen wants to do on his own what was previously done with the help of his parents. A growing person wants to feel needed by society, friends. There is a desire to prove yourself, show off your talents, and assert yourself in front of your peers.
This age period, when parents need to find a middle ground in raising the younger generation. If you care for your son or daughter too much, they will feel violated in their rights. Children will think that everything is always decided for them, they have no right to vote.

The other extreme, which is observed among some parents, is not to pay attention to changes in behavior, thinking that they will “outgrow it.” The attitude is wrong: children aged 8 years are extremely vulnerable, they need to feel supported loved one. Parents are an authority for a teenager; they give advice and guide if he asks for it. Mother and father are interested in the life and needs of their child. Close people know about the baby’s worries and try together to find the right solution to the problem.

How to properly educate a schoolchild?

A child at the age of 8 already attends school. For a schoolchild of this age, it is important to adhere to the correct daily routine for the child. This age is characterized by a strong attachment to electronic devices. Children become so busy playing games, films, cartoons that are ready to sacrifice sleep. It is important for parents to prevent such a situation. Sleep - part healthy image life of a young family member. Teenagers get some information from the TV screen or computer. Sometimes the information received contradicts the advice of adults, and the child protests the parents’ comments.
Adaptation to school life occurs during the first year of school. New student realizes that he is no longer the little child who was controlled and cared for by his parents; he will have to be separated from his relatives for some time and make some decisions on his own.
An eight-year-old schoolboy has already become comfortable within the walls of an educational institution, which is manifested by the following points:

• He knows the requirements for students of this age, fulfills them, and is accustomed to additional workloads.
• The kid has already met, made friends with his peers, has close friends, and has learned to have a conversation with the teacher and classmates.
• The opinion of peers is important; the student wants to imitate his friends, their actions, and interests.
• The young student is socially developed, has learned to communicate with others, and choose the right words.

Important! 8 years is the time when a teenager ceases to consider his parents as an authority and gives preference to peers in advice and interests.

The actions of parents at the stage of raising children should be tactful and timely. The following steps will bring them closer to their teenager:

• Be interested in your child's school life. It is important to control the immediate learning process, to know what the student is doing outside of school. Take an interest in the student’s social circle and concerns.
  Participate directly in the educational process: help with lessons, offer solutions to problems, monitor the correctness of thoughts.
• Praise the teenager for achievements and awards. This will help the student to assert himself and continue to strive to be better.
  Do not allow your child to withdraw into himself. The constant critical attitude of adults will alert the teenager, he will begin to doubt whether his parents trust him.

Establish a child's daily routine. A schoolchild needs to go to sleep at night on time - this will teach him responsibility and teach him to value his health.
A teenager in his ninth year of life thinks that he is already too old, he does not need the advice of his elders, but independence will come with age.

How to raise children's self-esteem?

Eight-year-old children pay attention to the skills and talents of their classmates. If they do something worse, their self-esteem drops. Self-criticism begins, the teenager considers himself worthless, an insecure person. The relationship between parents and children plays an important role here.
The main aspect of raising self-esteem is praise. It is important to praise the teenager for the successes achieved and acquired skills - this will show that the parents do not doubt him, trust him, and will support him in difficult times.
Discussion family issues, problems concerning the teenager, is carried out in his presence, allowing him to express his own opinion. In this way, parents will show that the opinion of a young family member is important to them, they listen to him and trust him. Communication at school sometimes forces a teenager to do like everyone else, so as not to stand out. But sometimes the motives of peers are fundamentally wrong; parents should guide the child along the right path, but it is important to do this without undermining the authority of the growing individual.

How to build confidence in a child?

Often 8-year-old children lack self-confidence. This happens due to the changing mood, actions, and words of peers. Adults need to make it clear to the child that he is needed and not useless. Parents can entrust their children with responsible work, praising them for their responsiveness and then for the results.
The mother and her daughter do household chores. Cleaning the house, cooking, shopping for groceries are women's affairs, the girl will be interested in the fact that her mother takes her into account and trusts her with serious decisions and responsible matters. Having entrusted an 8-year-old girl with responsible housework, her mother will teach her to be a disciplined, confident housewife.
An 8-year-old boy wants to appear like a grown man, like his father. He develops his own interests and hobbies. He wants to receive from his parents more freedom in choosing entertainment and activities. You shouldn’t let your son take his own course; there’s also no need to over-protect him. It is necessary to provide the freedom that he asks for, within reason.

How to raise an 8 year old girl?

Eight-year-old girls become assiduous, responsible, diligent, and dutiful. They spend most of their time on their appearance: clothes, hairstyle. By the age of eight, girls are interested in creativity, handicrafts, singing, dancing, and embroidery. Daughters become good helpers for their mothers and are more responsible in their studies. The girl should be constantly assured of love and praised for the work done. She will feel needed and useful to her parents. Daughters are less susceptible to emotional instability, they are more balanced, and they think more about education.

How to properly raise an eight-year-old son?

An 8-year-old boy shows less accuracy in his appearance. Often parents have to bring appearance son in good condition. 8 year old boys pay less attention to what they are wearing and how clean their clothes are.
Boys are less responsible in their studies, doing homework, and helping with household chores. They are reluctant to do the housework and homework assigned to them. Boys are active during recess and choose intense games. They also do not care about the process of studying or the state of their diary.
The intellectual development of this age in boys is higher than in female peers. They love to study various concepts and terms, expanding their vocabulary.
Often sons take their father's example, wanting to imitate him, and sometimes even replace him. They demand more freedom of action from parents. Boys are more susceptible to emotional swings, which affects their mood and behavior. A competent approach by parents will not alienate them from their children, but will bring them closer, making the relationship trusting.
Often boys need a confidential conversation with their father and mother. Parents give their son the opportunity to evaluate his actions and the consequences of his decisions, because an eight-year-old boy wants to seem like a grown man.

Attention! A psychologist's advice on raising boys says that they, just like girls, require parental attention and love, without realizing it.

What should a child know at this age?

An eight-year-old child is quite developed intellectually. Can read, write, count, and think logically. The teenager has his own opinion, which comes to the fore.
Children want to seem like adults, although they constantly need the support of their parents, but they try to hide it. An eight-year-old person does not solve all problems and difficult situations on his own. Parents are directly involved in the child's life.

By the age of 8, children’s personality is established and individual characteristics are formed. The student is interested in something specific and determines the type of activity he likes. A teenager is able to independently complete homework, solve problems, write beautifully, and express thoughts through drawings. Children of this age have excellent memory, visual information is especially remembered. They are able to draw conclusions based on the school material they have covered and the information they have seen, highlighting important points.
The daily routine for an 8-year-old child must be clear so that he can independently control and adjust it. Eight-year-old children navigate time and determine when to perform this or that task. Eight-year-olds should be able to take care of hygiene, school supplies, clothes.

What to do with an eight year old?

Eight-year-old children find interesting things to do on their own. But they still need adult attention. You should play intellectual games and decide logic problems, travel to interesting, educational places. Organize events where peers will be present. This will show that it is important to parents who the teenager communicates with.
You can watch his favorite movie together, read, discuss a book. This gesture will definitely be appreciated by your son or daughter. The main thing is that joint activities with parents will help develop the baby according to his age. Parents need to know what their child is interested in.

Uncontrollable child - what to do?

The eight-year age of a teenager is characterized by some behavioral changes. Some parents note a crisis at the age of eight for their child. It manifests itself in the following:

Children are often self-critical, anxious, sometimes aggressive, and embittered. The further behavior of the teenager depends on the educational tactics of the parents. Parents continue to assure their child of love, show tender feelings, and constantly and consistently engage in upbringing. Found with children interesting activities, help you feel needed. It doesn’t matter whether it comes to raising a son or daughter, everyone needs love, attention, and care.