How to help a man earn more. How to help a man start earning money How to inspire a husband to earn big money

Is it possible to make sure that the wife somehow contributes to her husband’s success? Is it possible to make my husband earn more, advance in his career, study, etc.? It is possible, and there are many examples of this.

– Why do this? Why help your husband get ahead? career ladder, achieve success in entrepreneurship or something else?- one of the women might ask me. – I am quite satisfied with his income and his success, I don’t need more.

It's good if this is really the case. Then you can simply support what is there, and you don’t need to read further.

As I described in detail in my video film "How to keep a man", the fact is that a man has a desire to achieve something, to achieve something, to be in some way superior to his environment, in general, to become a Real Man. Not necessarily in career growth or money, although this may also be important to your partner. It could be anything: he lifts the heaviest barbell in his gym; catches the biggest fish among his friends; does some work the fastest among his colleagues and a lot more.

And if a man is in no way superior to the people around him, then he will obviously have low self-esteem. It’s hard to communicate with such a man and, it seems to me, it’s hard to family life. Self-confidence can and should be developed. At one time, I completed a special training on developing confidence. You can study it in the book “How to become more confident in yourself in 3 months”.

However, often it is the woman who blocks the man's progress to success because of her fears. Believe me, this is a bad solution.

There are many examples of how a wife can contribute to her husband’s career growth (as well as vice versa). Wives do this without any special training.

That is, helping your husband advance in his career or in business is not so difficult.

What to take into account if you have set yourself such a task?

What methods are there to help a man move forward? professional growth, career growth and earn more money?

First. It is much easier and smarter to encourage what a man already wants and, perhaps, has even tried to do, than to promote something of his own.

As I already said in my video film “How to Keep a Man,” if this rule is not followed, then such non-compliance can nullify all attempts to move towards success.

How does it sometimes happen in practice? A woman wants her husband’s success, maybe even really wants it. She had absorbed a certain image of success somewhere. For example, in her subconscious there is approximately the following image of a “real man”: this is a successful entrepreneur; a major leader or generally a super professional in some field. And if such an image is embedded in a woman since childhood, she tries to make her husband fit this image. He, accordingly, avoids such “success” by all possible means.

Usually nothing good comes out of this. If an external stimulus contradicts an internal desire, then it turns out like in the fable about the Swan, Pike and Cancer. Everyone is pulling in different directions, but the load is still there.

However, if the wife encourages and even sometimes forces her husband to do what he already wants, then the husband is grateful to his wife and achieves certain successes in life to the best of his abilities and the energy that he is willing to invest in him.

For example, at one time I was very interested in real estate and real estate investing. My wife did not try to move me up the career ladder or force me to engage in entrepreneurship (fashionable at that time). Her approach goes something like this: “Interested in real estate and investing? And good". And she began to help me deal with real estate. Namely: maintain a family budget; to save money; sometimes travel and look at apartments with me (a rather tedious task), actively discuss investments, etc.

I haven’t even become close to becoming Donald Trump (an American real estate investor), but I have achieved good success, which is better than if I had been doing something I wasn’t passionate about and, most likely, would have achieved nothing.

Second. You don’t need to know or be able to do much to help your husband move towards success..

The most common objection from women when talking about helping their husband achieve his success is that: “I don’t understand his profession, I don’t know how to achieve career growth even for myself, let alone my husband.” and a lot more.

These, of course, are just excuses, and not even very convincing ones. I have repeatedly witnessed how people who have absolutely no understanding of something managed to completely encourage and control someone.

Several years ago I worked in a fairly large department in a large organization. The head of this department was a man retirement age. He was rather lazy, did not want to understand the affairs of his subordinates, and even if he wanted to, he would hardly be able to. He completed his main training about 30 years ago, a lot has changed since then, and to give some useful advice he could not due to lack of qualifications.

Nevertheless, he coped well with the leadership of the department. How did he do it? He called his subordinate and asked him: “What are you going to do for the project?”. The subordinate, of course, told the story, the manager listened and asked him about those moments where something was required that the subordinate himself could not solve. After listening to him, he usually said: “Write a plan with deadlines and bring me a copy.” The subordinate wrote a plan that outlined everything he was going to do and by when.

After this, having reviewed the plan, the leader usually said: “You’ll come back in a week and report on how the project is going.”

That, in fact, is the whole technique. A week later, he listened to his subordinate and asked why this was not done, why this, etc., if something was done, then well done. By the way, do not forget to praise your man, thank him for any help. For a man, hearing words of approval from the woman he loves means a lot. He will move mountains for them. On the same topic there is on our website " Sunny hands» .

If the subordinate himself did not understand anything about the project, that is, he did not know how to do anything and even draw up a sensible plan, then he had his own methods for this.

And how do parents sometimes check homework on those subjects that they have already forgotten what they are called, and not to understand some kind of mathematics? Yes, the same way, using this method.

So, using this method as a basis, you can help him in his professional growth, even without completely understanding his husband’s affairs.

How to do it? Yes, you just ask your husband what he would like to achieve in the near future in order to grow along a professional path, career ladder or as an entrepreneur?

After that you ask, what does he need to do for this?

And what kind of help is required from you (for example, you need to set aside 2-3 hours every day, not disturb him or distract him with household chores, so that he does something). Write this down for yourself.

And then it’s even easier. Say: “Okay, let's do it this way.” You give him these 2 hours, then you ask him what he did, why something wasn’t done, etc. Everything is generally very simple. You don’t even need to understand anything about your husband’s affairs.

The fact is that this is another basic human need for external control. Without it, a person always works worse than he could. And it's not so much a matter of willpower. After all, even professional athletes with enormous willpower always have a coach who, when they no longer have the strength, will come up and say: “Well, come on, let’s run, or do 20 more push-ups.”

After all, this is the most common situation in a person’s life when he cannot move his affairs. He cannot succeed not because he does not know what and how to do. He cannot succeed because he lacks internal or external incentive to do something.

Your husband most often already knows what to do. But do in real life it can be quite difficult. Constant routine, people's refusals, fatigue - all this must be overcome. And sometimes all you need is someone to say once or twice a week: “Go ahead, do it. You will definitely succeed." Well, of course, not just like that, but according to an algorithm. (What needs to be done, why it doesn’t work, what’s wrong with me, and then go ahead, then well done and why it didn’t work out.)

And secondly, on this point, that you do not understand some work. Well, who is stopping you from gaining at least minimal knowledge? Believe me, you don't need to know much to help your husband succeed. I think 2% of what your husband knows is more than enough. And this could be two or three weeks of reading something and listening more carefully to your partner. Often behind the excuse “I don’t understand anything about a man’s work, I can’t help him, and we don’t need anything, everything is fine with us” is also a woman’s lack of self-confidence. You also need to be prepared for your husband’s success.

Third. There is no need to push anyone too much and expect some quick results..

Let's say you decide to help your husband in his affairs. What happens sometimes? On a wave of enthusiasm, a shake-up occurs and everyone begins to do something. You are actively pushing your husband to achieve success. The inspired husband also works and burns.

However, a week passes, then a second, then a month, and no significant results are visible. There is no growth on the career ladder and no success is noticeable. Enthusiasm drops and you give up everything.

At least I've gone through this cycle several times. I’ll read some book on the psychology of success, start setting goals, writing plans, etc. But gradually the enthusiasm fades away, and after a couple of weeks I give up everything.

And only then does the understanding begin to come that expecting some quick and miraculous results only worsens the situation. As a rule, in order to feel something real from your efforts, it takes at least several months of continuous work. And before others notice it, it may take a couple of years.

So don't expect too quick results. Don’t rely on them yourself and don’t set your husband up for them.

It's not that there won't be any. Fast results are desirable and come quite often if you do things right. But more often than not, things are delayed, and the results, especially at the beginning, are quite insignificant.

It is best if helping your husband achieve success is not a one-time action, but a way of life, a habit. Set yourself up to develop a habit, adjust your actions if something doesn’t work out, and the results will definitely come.

Fourth. There is no need to put your life on the altar of your husband's success..

Sometimes I read sad stories women, they come down to approximately the following. The wife decided to help her husband advance in his career or in business. To do this, she quit her job, constantly helped him write his diplomas, then something else, constantly cooked for him, supported him. With her help, her husband eventually achieved what she was striving for, that is, success, money or something else. After this, the husband left his wife, who was left without a profession, without work and without money.

A fairly typical scenario for the development of relations between a man and a woman living in the roles of “mother and son.” “Mom” takes care of “son”, who subsequently abandons her. “Don’t become a “mommy” for a man” - I recommend reading it. Be sure to study it so as not to repeat mistakes that can cost not only family well-being, but also your personal success, your personal happiness, self-confidence, etc.

Therefore, in order for the likelihood of this scenario not to arise even in principle, you do not need to play the role of “mother” and put your life on the altar in order to help your husband achieve success.

Get on with your life. Play sports, personal growth, make time for your hobbies. Take time to be with your husband, walk, chat. If your career is important to you, then move up the career ladder yourself.

So I suggest you be in the role of a cheerleader when you are helping your husband, and not a member of the team. He shares with you some difficult situation or talks about victory or defeat. Of course, you need to rejoice with your husband or maybe share the defeat.

If he asks about something, maybe even help with advice if you can. Give your full attention to the conversation. Maybe you can suggest something useful with your questions. (And you looked there, and asked this one, maybe this is so?)

However, the conversation about achieving success passed, and that’s it. You no longer need to think about solving your husband’s problems, you don’t need to worry about him or be very happy. Let him solve problems himself, think and achieve his successes himself. You just have to want and be able to accept the success of the massage.

Switch to your tasks, of which you most likely have a lot. And if you feel like you’re a fan and not a participant, even if you say the same words, then you simply won’t be able to step into the role of “mom.” Practice, you will definitely succeed.

Fifth. Distribute what your husband brings wisely. Make your husband feel positive changes from increasing his income.

This point, I think, is more or less obvious. Most people quickly become exhausted if they do not feel that somehow their efforts, higher income, are not specifically benefiting them.

In other words, in order to work, a man needs to feel rewarded. Of course, the main reward should not be material. It is better to place more emphasis on internal satisfaction from work, your praise, the feeling of victory, or something else.

However, a man should also feel material changes. That is, money should be spent on things that would please the man. You may say: “But we bought new furniture for the house, made repairs and something else.”

This is great if this is a really important area for your man. But this may not be true at all. Maybe a new keyboard for 1,000 rubles is more important to him than a repair for 300,000 thousand rubles.

That is, I repeat once again, no large sums should be allocated to encourage a man (everything is relative, of course), but at the same time he should feel that he is not working in vain.

Second component The fact that a man does not work in vain is that the money that comes into the budget is spent wisely. For example, if your husband earns 100 thousand rubles every month, but no changes occur, everything is wasted on some nonsense, and again there is no money, then a natural feeling arises: “No matter how much you earn, everything is useless.”

Therefore, master the science of managing a family budget. I also wrote quite a lot about this on the “Sunny Hands” website; you can read the articles in the “How to make money” section.

Best regards, Rashid Kirranov.

If your husband earns little, the easiest way that many women use is to start nagging him, showing him a positive example of his friends, constantly reminding him that his income is low. Most likely, instead of increasing your husband’s income, you will get different results - his self-esteem will decrease, he will become angry, offended, for him you will turn from the woman he loves into his most terrible enemy. He will avoid you, preferring to spend time anywhere and with anyone, but not with you. But how can you influence the situation if a man earns little?

Be a woman

Nature has written in the nature of all men to protect, protect and provide women with everything necessary so that they take care of the home and offspring. Look at yourself. Do you look like a keeper of the hearth, a Woman, a Mother, a Wife? Are you affectionate and kind, or always irritated? Are you wearing a dress or jeans? Is your home clean and comfortable, or does cleaning happen once a month? In order for a man to start earning money “for two,” he needs to see you not as a rival, not as an ally, but as a Woman who needs to be protected and to whom you need to give all the best. !

Believe in a man

“Of course they won’t raise your salary, you’re a dunce. You're a loser, I actually regretted getting involved with you. Mumble, weak-willed, rag! - Do you think this will make your husband richer? Believe in him and demonstrate that faith. Tell him: “Nothing, I know that you are so smart, hard-working, purposeful that you don’t care about these temporary difficulties, you will learn a lot from them, and then you will fly up, and I will always support you.” Your faith is an amazing, powerful force, and it alone can change the situation.

But it is not enough to simply believe and demonstrate faith. It is necessary to find and sincerely rejoice at any confirmation of the validity of your faith. Did your husband get paid? It doesn’t matter which one - praise, be happy, enjoy the realization of the fact that your man can earn money. Since he earned 20 thousand, he can earn 100 thousand. Rejoice at his bonuses, rejoice at his promotions, rejoice at your husband’s new projects. It will inspire you, him and the Universe itself.

Accept gifts with gratitude

Do you know how to attract wealth into your home? You need to learn to accept with joy and gratitude the gifts that fate gives you. Gifts from your husband should also be accepted with joy. But what if he doesn’t give you anything? Cheat. Ask him for something small and express great gratitude and joy for the gift. Next time, he himself will want to give you this pleasure and gain his own bit of pride and even vanity by watching your joy. And the Universe will also delight you the more, the greater your gratitude for its gifts.

Open yourself to being gifted, pampered, and pleased.

Tune in to Wealth

How to attract wealth? Tune your inner receiver to it. Sounds stupid? Not at all. Think carefully, what is your money program set up for now? Mortgage, saving money for a vacation, taking out a car loan? This is a failed plan, built on savings, debt, and deprivation. Tune in to something else: your plans should include increasing your income to such a level that all your desires can be fulfilled without going into debt or denying yourself anything.

And another way to attract money into your home is to start thinking like a person worthy of this money, and not a slave to it. Buy what you deserve, not what is cheaper. Eat what you deserve, not what's on sale. Make yourself happy, make your husband happy. He deserves all this too. As soon as you get used to this lifestyle, you simply cannot do otherwise, which means that you and your husband will have as much money as is necessary to maintain such a life.

And for inspiration, we invite you to watch a series of programs from the Discovery Channel about the richest people in the world.

It is a proven fact that behind every successful man there is a woman. And in my post today I want to tell you how a woman can influence the well-being of her family.

The principles I will talk about are quite simple and clearly stated. Using them, every woman can lead her man to financial success. However, applying this knowledge in practice is very difficult - it requires a lot of work from a woman on herself.

What to do to make your husband earn a lot

So, what do the wives of successful men do to help their loved ones achieve high results in their careers and earn big money?

They perform their feminine duties with love.

I wrote in detail about women's responsibilities in one of my previous ones. If we talk about them briefly, a woman should take care of her external, internal beauty and purity, treat her husband correctly, be obedient and faithful wife, cook food and create comfort in the house. It is important to perform these duties not so much out of a sense of duty, but out of love for your husband (and children, if you have any). That is, not from a lack of love - to be noticed, appreciated, thanked, etc., but from the abundance of love in your heart - from the desire to make the life of your loved one better, easier, and even if he does not appreciate your efforts.

They deliberately become number two.

This means that the wives of successful men may appear less significant in the eyes of others than their husbands, allowing men to realize their potential in the outside world, allowing them to “eclipse” themselves outside. This point is very difficult to fulfill, because most of us girls have something to be proud of - gold medals, college diplomas, courses in English, oratory skills. The list goes on and on. From childhood we are taught to be competitive, to be the best and especially better than boys. They drive it into our heads that we must be independent, we must definitely achieve heights in our careers (usually in men’s), earn enough, or you never know. All this does not give us the opportunity to cede our careers and external success to our husbands. They don’t explain to us that a woman’s success is primarily in the family (internal success), as well as in the external success of her man. Without a woman, who often remains invisible to others, a man will not be able to achieve real success, because then there will be no one to dedicate this very success to, there will be no motivation to grow and achieve. By consciously choosing the role of second violin, a woman automatically makes her husband a prince, and herself a princess, for whom the prince does not feel sorry for any treasures in the world.

Think bigger.

This paragraph is about women's freedom to desire. In order for a man to achieve more, his goals must gradually become broader and more global. It is a woman who, with her desires, helps a man decide on his goals and gradually expand his circle of influence. Learn to allow yourself more in your thoughts - more dresses, flowers, travel, etc. - is extremely important, while it is also important to be able to accept the growing opportunities that come through a man. It is interesting that the energy of money, according to the Vedas, is feminine. It is through a woman that money comes into the family, therefore, in order for there to be more money, a woman should not be afraid of her desires and have good internal beliefs about money. In addition, the Vedas say that getting rid of grievances and claims against female relatives (wife, mother, grandmothers, sisters), as well as caring for them, helps to harmonize the energy of money in the family.

They believe in their husband.

This point can be put first in importance. It has been proven that behind the success of any famous, outstanding man there is a woman who blindly believes in his talents and abilities (this woman is not necessarily his wife, she could be a mother or, for example, a sister).

Having faith in your husband means believing in him no matter what. Even if everyone thinks he's stupid or a loser. Even if he is wrong. Even if his goals seem unattainable.

Girls, I sincerely wish you to believe in your men and inspire them to achieve! And let each of you one day say: “My husband earns a lot!”

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Synchronicities happen :)). Today in the newsletter Olga Valyaeva wrote an article about increasing family cash flows for women. I will implement it :).

Develop your desire. As long as a woman refuses to desire, her husband has nothing to give her. There are many methods - gluing collages of dreams, writing wish lists, collecting jars with dreams... the main thing here is to write everything, without criticism or assessment of practicality (well, where will I wear this then?)
And then start develop allowance. After all, it’s not enough to want a new dress. You also need to afford to buy it. Especially if you don't have much money. And not only allow, but also not to bite yourself to death after this. Of course, this has roots from childhood, when we were forbidden or devalued a lot (well, why do you need another doll, you’re already big!). But roots are roots - and now we ourselves can allow or prohibit them. And the main thing here is habit.
Allow yourself sometimes things are of very good quality. I'm not talking about squandering your husband's salary and then hoping for a higher power. What I'm saying is that when you choose an item and look only at the price, you don't allow abundance to manifest in your life. I used to buy sandals at markets. After all, wear it for one season. They will still fall apart. And I remember how my husband once tried to persuade me to buy good, high-quality ones. I didn’t have enough brains then—or rather, I had too many. Therefore, the persuasion took a long time. But I agreed. It was expensive for us then. A fifth of monthly income. But it turned out that they not only do not rub, do not fall apart and do not peel off. They are not even felt on the foot, they look very good and are pleasing to the eye. And most importantly, my husband was very pleased. And I realized why I still need to earn more - to please me more often with simple little things.
Make your dreams come true! If you dream of a “DSLR” - buy it! Let it be first hand, an outdated model with high mileage. This was our first Canon. But it had one advantage - the price was three times lower than the new latest model. A dream come true gives a lot of energy and inspiration. The first iPhone, bought used, a used but desired car, furniture on sale - there are always options! We must allow ourselves to make our dreams come true. And then there will really be more money. They will come again and again - to fulfill your dreams.
The most simple ways increasing the ceiling- these are rented apartments more best quality(when you can no longer earn less than its value), various electronic devices - phones, computers, laptops, cameras, travel to different countries. Of course, it is important here without fanaticism. The bar grows very gradually - how ready are you to “digest” it?
Dealing with limiting beliefs- that money is bad, shameful, scary. Life will protect you from money if it bothers you.
To Work with generic scenarios - most often our fears, inability to save, debts and other difficulties come from the past. From the memories of a family where someone was dispossessed, someone divided the inheritance, someone was burdened by wealth. (c) http://www.valyaeva.ru/?p=6427

I think that there should be rationality in everything and there should still be a limit to dreams - the meaning of life is not only in material pleasure. At the same time It is very important to realize our women's dreams, then we will have the strength to make others happy!

I especially want to emphasize: it is important to write down your smallest dreams and desires and record that the desire is fulfilled - this brings great joy in everyday life!